Episode 226: Learning to Set Boundaries — Continuing Shelly’s Coaching Journey
In Episode 226 of the Slow Living Podcast, we continue the very first coaching session with Shelly—and this second half goes deeper into the emotional work of boundaries, caregiving, and self-acceptance.
Shelly opens up about what it’s really like to care for an aging parent, especially within the complexity of her relationship with her biological father.
This part of the conversation is honest, tender, and deeply human. We talk about the quiet grief that can exist even when no one has passed away yet, and the emotional weight of showing up for someone while also trying not to lose yourself in the process.
Using insights from Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson, we explore what acceptance truly means—not as approval, but as clarity.
Acceptance allows you to stop fighting reality and start making decisions that protect your time, energy, and emotional well-being.
In this episode, we discuss:
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— Setting and holding boundaries without guilt
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— The emotional layers of caregiving and family estrangement
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— Grief that doesn’t always have a name
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— Letting go of who you wish someone could be
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— Planning ahead for retirement, finances, health, and time
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— How simple tools like time blocking can create breathing room and peace
This conversation isn’t about cutting people off or doing anything drastic. It’s about learning how to put yourself back into your own life—especially if you’ve spent years putting everyone else first.
If you’ve ever struggled with people pleasing, over-functioning, or carrying more than your fair share of responsibility, this episode offers reassurance that you’re not doing it wrong—and that it’s okay to choose yourself with intention and care.
Shelly’s journey is just beginning, and this episode reflects the powerful (and often quiet) work that happens when we slow down enough to tell the truth.
Past Episodes You May Love
Each of these episodes builds on the same theme: living thoughtfully, setting gentle boundaries, and creating a life that feels sustainable—not overwhelming.
As always, I think you are wonderful.
lots of love to you and those you love.
oxox steph
